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I’m 26in love with a wonderful guyand very excited at the thought of having child. My problem is related to sex, especially penetration. I have had two attempts at penetrative sex in the past but it was so uncomfortable it left me for years thinking that I vaginismus. Since then, I’ve mostly avoided penetration. However, I recently realized (after intimacy with my boyfriend) that the problem is not physical, but psychological. I used to be shamed for wanting tampons. mom so I didn’t try to use it until I was older. I want to get around this problembut I don’t know where to start and I’m so scared.

Everything you deal with is treatable, so hope! Your first task – and it is extremely important – is to find a doctor with whom you feel safe enough to allow a medical examination. This is because it is possible that there may be a physical problem that needs to be treated and addressed.

If physiological factors are ruled out, you can begin to work on your fear of penetration. If your fear of penetration is so great that you cannot allow a doctor to examine you, you should seek psychological help. Depending on the cause, a qualified psychologist may suggest anxiety-reducing treatment, hypnosis, or treatment for trauma or phobic reactions. In addition, a sex therapist can provide invaluable assistance. Don’t wait to seek treatment.

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Cook County offers employees 12 weeks of paid parental leave



Cook County Government employees may soon be eligible for 12 weeks of paid parental leave at the suggestion of Cook County Commissioner Bridget Degnen and Board Chairman Tony Preckwinkle.

The current policy allows four weeks of paid leave for a parent having a non-surgical delivery and six weeks for a surgical delivery. Non-bearing parents and adoptive parents are currently only eligible for two weeks. But citing research on improving the health of both children and parents, the county council unanimously approved a resolution to study the cost of expanding the paid parental leave policy in October.

A budget impact report released Thursday estimates that the 12-week expansion for all district employees will cost an additional $3.8 million in payroll and related payroll taxes. This amount includes approximately $540,000 in overtime for employees helping with the duties of those on leave.

The current value of paid parental leave is $2.1 million, according to the county finance bureau. Estimates released Thursday assume all employees are on full 12 weeks. Currently, about 40% of employees take less than 12 weeks of vacation.

Officials looked at the number of new births and adoptions per year for employees “and historical parental leave data for previous years” to determine the cost, financial spokesman Ted Nelson said in an email. “The expected additional cost of $3.3 million is the amount of unpaid leave that will now be paid. For salaried workers who take longer holidays than otherwise due to the new policy, there are no additional costs because they will still be paid.”

Last fall, Prequinkle said she supported the expansion but wanted all employees to be able to receive the same benefits at the same time.

“I’m a mother myself, not to mention a grandmother, so I believe in parental leave,” she said. “I would like to be able to offer this benefit to both our exempt and union workers at the same time, and we are trying to figure out how to deal with that.”

Under legislation presented to the council on Thursday by Degnen and Prequinkle, the expansion would be “subject to collective bargaining.” This only applies to employees who have worked in the district for 12 consecutive months. Eligible workers may be biological parents or non-biological parents, “intended parents of gestational surrogacy”, or adoptive or adoptive parents of a child 17 years of age or younger.

The decision to extend the vacation was handed over to the committee at a board meeting on Thursday. If the policy is passed next month, it will go into effect on July 1st. Degnen told the Tribune she wants to extend it to Forest Preserves employees as well.

Chicago began offering 12 weeks of parental leave to its employees in early 2023.

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“Love and Death” Season 2



The following contains spoilers for love and death season 1

HBO love death concludes in the courtroom. Candy Montgomery (Elizabeth Olsen) details the events of her murder rampage by Getty Gore, which included an ax brought into the living room by Gore, a fight, and a trigger — “shhh” — that drove Candy into such a frenzy that she repeatedly stabbed Mountain. Psychotic break described in another testimony by Dr. Fred Faison as a dissociative event whose description was apparently bought by the jury and deemed sufficient for the defense to find Candy not guilty.

Candy Montgomery’s real-life case developed in a similar fashion when lawyer Don Crowder enlisted Dr. Candy’s support. Fred Faison, a psychologist and hypnotist, testifies in Candy’s defense. Through hypnosis, Faison reportedly helped Candy uncover moments of emotional trauma from the age of 4 when her mother really “shhh” Candy. At the booth, Candy said that Gore had also used the phrase and that Candy had “pissed off”.

The jury found Candy not guilty, apparently influenced by both testimony. (You can read about the real trial in 1984. Texas Monthly articles”Love and Death on Silicon Prairie Part 2: The Killing of Betty Gore“, itself taken from the book Proof of Love: A True Story of Suburban Passion and Death by John Bloom and Jim Atkinson.)

But while the lawsuit could end the events of the case and the source material for the HBO series, will it be the end of the show?

Want love death get season 2?

There have been no announcements for a second season yet. HBO himself only mentioned love death as a “limited series”, meaning it will most likely only run for one season.

If the series had continued the storyline, it would have done so without much source material. The lives of its protagonists were not widely publicized after the trial. Any future drama is likely to be fabricated.

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Joshua St. Clair is Associate Editor of Men’s Health.

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Now we know how Botox penetrates neurons and paralyzes muscles.



Botulism or Clostridium botulinum bacterium 3d illustration

Illustration of Clostridium botulinum, a bacteria that produces botulinum neurotoxin.


We finally know how Botox gets into the neurons. The discovery could help develop an antidote for the molecule’s neurotoxic effects, which can lead to paralysis or even death.

Botox uses a type of botulinum neurotoxin, a highly toxic substance produced by bacteria. The toxin disrupts communication between neurons, resulting in muscle paralysis. In small therapeutic doses, it can ease muscle spasms, cure migraines, or more commonly, reduce wrinkles. However, in high doses, this molecule causes botulism, a potentially fatal disease that does not require large amounts of treatment.

Frederic Meunier from the University of Queensland in Australia and colleagues analyzed how botulinum neurotoxin type A enters neurons using a technique called single molecule imaging. This allowed them to capture the movement of molecules labeled with a fluorescent dye.

The researchers placed the toxin in a dish of rat neurons. They tuned one camera to a neurotoxin and the other to receptors in neuronal membranes, also labeled with different colors of dyes.

Previously, only two receptors, called polysialoganglioside (PSG) and synaptic vesicle glycoprotein 2 (SV2), were thought to be key for toxin entry into cells. But when they tracked SV2’s response to the toxin, they saw that it moved in tandem with another receptor known as synaptotagmin 1 (Syt1).

“Basically we started thinking, ‘Oh, this is weird,'” Meunier says. The researchers genetically modified rat neurons to prevent Syt1 from binding to SV2 and repeated the experiment. If you suppress the binding between these two receptors, the toxin can no longer enter the cell, Meunier says.

The same was true when they genetically modified neurons to lack PSG, indicating that all three receptors are required for botulinum neurotoxin type A to enter cells. Future drugs that block the binding of the three receptors could prevent neurons from being infected by the toxin, Meunier said.

“By understanding more about the mechanism of cell entry, we are one step closer to preventing cell entry and preventing botulism,” says Sabine Pellett at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.


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